These directions worked with some modifications: https://javorszky.co.uk/2018/05/03/getting-xdebug-working-on-php-7-2-an…
I was using PHP on the command line with homebrew, so installed xdebug with pecl install xdebug
then I was able to put the following in the php.ini file, find the php.ini file for the command line by running php --ini and look for Loaded Configuration File in the output.
The below is for XDEUG 3.0
[xdebug] zend_extension="/opt/homebrew/Cellar/php@7.4/7.4.16/pecl/20190902/xdebug.so" xdebug.mode=debug xdebug.client_host=127.0.0.1 xdebug.client_port=9000 xdebug.start_with_request=yes xdebug.output_dir="/Applications/MAMP/tmp" xdebug.log="/Users/jbarnett/xdebug.log" xdebug.idekey=PHPSTORM